Sources & real help
This guide paraphrases and organizes established dementia-care guidance into calm, usable steps. Here is where the load-bearing claims come from, and the verified phone numbers.
Helplines: verified
- Alzheimer's Association 24/7 Helpline: 1-800-272-3900. Free, every day, around the clock; masters-level clinicians; 200+ languages. alz.org/helpline
- Eldercare Locator: 1-800-677-1116 (Mon–Fri). Connects you to your local Area Agency on Aging for respite, day programs, meals, transport. eldercare.acl.gov
- 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: call or text 988. For dark moments of your own, anytime.
- NIA's ADEAR Center: 1-800-438-4380. The National Institute on Aging's Alzheimer's education and referral line.
- Wandering response: the MedicAlert + Alzheimer's Association program enrolls by phone via 1-800-272-3900. medicalert.org/alz
Behavior, agitation & sundowning
- National Institute on Aging: Coping with agitation, aggression, and sundowning (light, routine, calm, lowered stimulation; the basis of our sundowning and agitation steps).
- Alzheimer's Association: Sleep issues and sundowning.
- NIA: Managing personality and behavior changes (don't argue, reassure, redirect).
Sudden confusion: the "call the doctor today" rule
- Cedars-Sinai: How UTIs can trigger delirium and worsen dementia.
- Systematic review: UTI-induced delirium in elderly patients (sudden-onset confusion is frequently infection or medication, and treatable: the single rule this guide repeats most).
Hospital stays & discharge rights
- Medicare: Fast appeals (the "Important Message from Medicare," the day-of-discharge deadline, coverage during the review, and the BFCC-QIO reviewers: the basis of the discharge guidance on the hospital page).
- Medicare: Skilled nursing facility care (the 3-day qualifying inpatient stay, why observation and ER time don't count, and the waivers worth asking about).
- National Institute on Aging: Taking a person with Alzheimer's disease to the hospital.
- Poison Help: poison.org, 1-800-222-1222, free and answered around the clock (the emergency-page guidance).
Late-stage decisions
- American Geriatrics Society: Feeding tubes in advanced dementia: position statement (careful hand feeding is at least as good as tube feeding for survival, aspiration, and comfort; tube feeding carries real burdens: the basis of our "comfort feeding" guidance).
Techniques & training videos: vetted teachers
- UCLA Alzheimer's & Dementia Care Program, free caregiver-training video series: agitation & anxiety, repetitive questions, home safety, depression & apathy. Also on the UCLA Health site.
- Teepa Snow / Positive Approach to Care, Hand-under-Hand®: connect and assist, dressing, eating and drinking.
A note on honesty
Phone numbers and links on this page were verified in July 2026. Organizations move pages; if a link breaks, the helpline numbers are the durable part, and 1-800-272-3900 can route you to nearly everything else. Nothing on this site is medical advice; it's the accumulated craft of dementia care, organized for tired people.