Behavior Log
Hard moments feel random. They almost never are. Log each one in ten seconds; after a handful, the pattern shows itself, and patterns are how you win. Stays on this device.
What you're looking for
- Their best hour. Most people have one, often mid-morning. Once the log shows yours, spend it on purpose: the visits, the phone calls to family, the shower, the appointment. Nothing hard gets scheduled in the worst hour again.
- The four quiet multipliers. Hard moments cluster around dusk, tiredness, dim light, and noise, and they stack. That's why the same request goes fine at ten and starts a fight at six. Note them in "what came just before"; they matter as much as the events do.
- Pain and illness hiding as behavior. A sudden run of bad days with no trigger is often a body, not a mood: infection, constipation, a sore tooth, a new pill. The log is what turns "he's been awful this week" into something a doctor can act on.
- What worked. The "what helped" line becomes your playbook, in your own words, for the next 3am.
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Gradual drift is the disease. Sudden is a question. A clear drop over hours or a day or two, more confusion, more lost words, not knowing people they knew last week, is delirium until proven otherwise: infection (a UTI is the classic), dehydration, or a medication. It is common, it is treatable, and it needs a same-day call, not a wait-and-see. Bring this log. When to call whom.